Don’t you just love when life throws you curve-balls or just leaves things pretty vague? If you’re anything like me, the last thing you like is uncertainty. And since graduation things have stayed quite uncertain as far as a career path goes.
Uncertainty at any point in life can be a very scary thing. Especially in today’s world where it seems like society’s expectations follow a rigid schedule and when you don’t meet it, you must be falling behind. You’re expected to graduate from high school, go to college, become a superhuman that’s involved on campus while gaining real work experience, and then graduate to pursue another degree or be in the early stages of your career somewhere. And that doesn’t even begin to touch on the weird expectations about marriage and parenting when related to career choices. So how are you supposed to feel when your situation isn’t lining up to this narrow timeline?
Personally, I have been struggling, but actively trying to remove the belief from my mind that I need to follow this timeline. I struggle because for too long I have based what I consider as success, on timelines or expectations created by other people. My active involvement in playing into these expectations has caused me to become frustrated and unfair to myself. There have been times when I let the uncertainty of what my future holds terrorize me because I don’t “have it together” yet. But what I have realized is that having “it” together means something different to everyone. We all have different interests so we shouldn’t subject ourselves to following a list of generalized expectations.
Sure I still don’t really like uncertainty, but I have found beauty and excitement in it. The beauty about not caring what anyone else’s expectations are is that you can choose how you want to live your life. You don’t have to define yourself or your success based on anyone else. I’ve heard it so many times and it sounds like common sense right? Well it wasn’t until I had no choice but to accept my situation that I really gave it more thought. (With having so much free time and all.) I was accustomed to always knowing what step came next, which was normally going back to school. Simple. Then when undergrad was over and I had no potential job lined up, it took a lot of effort not to break down and give up.
It’s been a challenging process of learning how to accept things as they are, but it has become a lovely journey of being grateful. I am grateful for uncertainty because it has pulled me back to Earth, forcing me to plant my feet on what is present. It has made me realize that you don’t always have to know what you’re doing next to do what you like. If some aspect of your life is not fulfilling your happiness, create that joy somewhere else. Create it in yourself and your faith. I don’t even know what my dream job is and I’m probably not even ready for it, but that’s okay. I know a great opportunity will present itself if I stay proactive. I have found fulfillment in other areas…my faith, the people I hold close to my heart, meditation, art, and fitness. And I make sure to keep as much consistency as possible in these areas of my life because they’re all things I love and enjoy.
Instead of fearing the unknown let’s embrace it and create our own fulfillment in doing things we love! I challenge you, whether things are going how you want or not, to pause. Take a moment to breathe and think about something you are grateful for right now, in this moment. No matter how simple it may be, be thankful.
“The Lord sees the good people and listens to their prayers. But the Lord is against those who do evil.” If you are trying hard to do good, no one can really hurt you.
1 Peter 3:12-13